When it comes to New Year’s resolutions, most people will choose ones that are centered on self-improvement and obtaining personal goals. But what about resolutions that can help improve your relationships? Along with your regular New Year’s resolutions, you should also make some that revolve around your marriage, either improving it or keeping it a happy one. If you need a little help figuring out the best resolutions that can help your marriage, below are five that can get you started.
Depending on your line of work, this may be easier said than done. But when the time comes to leave the office or workplace, leave everything work related where it is. This goes for both physical and mental work stuff. If there are reports or paper work that you need to get done, don’t bring it home. Either leave it until the next work day or ask for some help at work. When it comes to the mental aspect of the job, this can be even harder to leave behind than the physical work. Try talking things out when you get home, but then pushing it to the background. If you spend all of your time home working or complaining about work, there isn’t much time left for anything else.
Quite often in a marriage, even when the workload is even, it’s done separately. So throughout the week each person is working on their own separate to-do list. Sure, this gets the housework done, but it doesn’t really do anything for the marriage. Two people can live together but not really spend any time together which can affect the relationship. So when it comes to housework, why not do it together? Designate a half-hour or an hour every day or every other day and work on chores together. Not only does it make the time go by faster, it gives you and your spouse the opportunity to talk and connect.
There are so many benefits to exercise that it’s amazing that more people don’t make it part of their daily routine. When you exercise, not only are you getting or staying in shape, but you’ll have an easier time sleeping and your mood will improve. Exercise can also help relieve stress and anxiety. It only makes sense that if you are less stressed, less anxious, healthy and sleeping well you’ll be happier. The affects of exercise can make a huge difference in your marriage.
Whether it’s once a week, once every two weeks or even once a month, it’s important to your marriage to have a date night. It’s so easy to get into a rut where you do the same things, have the same routine day after day. With a regular date night you have the opportunity to get dressed up and hit the town together, whether it’s for a romantic dinner or a movie. It helps you connect as a couple and remember why you fell in love in the first place.
While date night is important, so is me time. Take an hour or two a week and do something just for you. Maybe take up a new hobby or learn a new skill. It really doesn’t matter what it is. The important thing is that for a little bit each week it’s all about you. When you’re married, especially if you have children, you can lose your sense of self in work, taking care of your kids and being a spouse. Doing something you like can help keep things fresh in your marriage.
About the Author
Joshua Fletcher is a freelance writer for MarriageMax.com. Marriage Fitness is an innovative step-by-step relationship-changing system that teaches you how to save a marriage. It is a more effective alternative to marriage counseling.